And it’s not just touch that reminds us that we are animals who need to be cared for, it’s also being heard, it’s about being seen. Validating your spouse is as easy as listening to what they say, not just their words, but their silences. Your kids, even though they act like they want to be left alone, they need you to see them. The only thing worse than a nagging parent is an apathetic one.
We need to remember that every person we meet is fighting their own personal battle each and every day, be they a co-worker or the person who took your coffee order and maybe for some of them, just leaving the house today was a victory for them unto itself. I can’t tell you how many times just a simple smile or a hello, from a stranger, made all the difference in the world.
What this country needs is a little less ‘let me tell you why I’m right and you’re wrong’, and instead, more people who are willing to just shut up and listen. When most people talk, we usually are just waiting for them to finish, because we’ve already decided what we want to say. That’s not validating, nor is that how we learn things. We learn using our eyes and our ears, our mouth rarely, if ever, has much to do with that.